One Man’s Scenario: Is this familiar? 

When it’s good with her it’s “good”. You feel like a million bucks when she’s smiling. You know it’s not your “job” to make her happy, but you sure wish you could. It’s gotten to the point that before you even open your mouth you just KNOW you’ve done something wrong, even though you’re not exactly sure what it is. In fact, how it might be for you now, is that you can’t do ANYTHING right, and you’re starting to think, “Why bother trying?”.

You find yourself setting up boundaries and blocks to protect yourself from this never-ending sense of dissatisfaction and unhappiness you’re getting from her. You wish she would notice all the things you DO for her and the family. You’re starting to think she’s unappreciative. She wants you to take more of the “lead” regarding the house and/or family. When you do, she either lets you know you’ve done it wrong OR she doesn't see the value in how you’ve done it. She’ll take someone else’s word over yours. When you get into conversation with her, she jumps all OVER the place and doesn’t stick to one thing. She often doesn’t believe what you’re saying. She thinks you’re ”withholding” but you’re not.

When you agree to have difficult conversations, you always seem to be talking about the same old thing and it never really “gets” anywhere. She keeps saying, “You don’t get it, do you?” You think you do get it, and secretly (and maybe not so secretly) you think there is something wrong with her… that she’s “asking for trouble”… that she may even be a little “crazy”.

You give great advice, ideas and suggestions and can’t figure out WHY she would prefer misery over listening to your ideas. The longer this goes on, the more you disengage. It’s gotten to the point where you don’t say what’s really on your mind because she’s not going to hear you anyway, you’ve just stopped talking about THOSE things. How can she be missing all of the great things about you? Are you really that much of a failure?

The "Where Are You Now?" Private Phone Session Is About Understanding You So You Have A More Customised Retreat Experience

During the call, Donna needs 15 minutes to give you details about how the weekend will go. Then you have 45 minutes (if you want them) to help Donna understand your experience of what's happening in your relationship. Donna does NOT assess, judge, blame or determine who is right or wrong. The call helps Donna customise the retreat so the program is directly and personally relatable to you.

The call:

• Gives you confidence knowing that your experience has been heard. You will know that Donna understands exactly what you are experiencing so you can be sure that it will be addressed during the retreat.
• Allows Donna to customise the retreat so you get the most possible from the experience.
• Provides a platform for you and your spouse to separately relate your experience in a safe, non-judgmental environment.

Refund / Cancellation Policy

We’re committed to making a difference in your relationship, but we can’t be more committed than you. We want you to have talked to your spouse about the event and to be sure that you’re in. We want you to be committed too. Our refund policy reflects that intention.

With that in mind, there are no refunds offered after registering. In lieu of a refund, and in accordance with our "Flex Attendance Policy", a retreat can be rescheduled for any date within 2 months of the original registration fee being received. For instance, if you paid on May 7 for a retreat on May 20-21, but weren't able to attend, you can select new dates as long as those dates are before July 7. 

Since many of the couples that attend the retreat are experiencing a lot of stress in their relationship, it's not uncommon for them to have an argument immediately before the retreat, and then request a refund, almost as if to punish their partner. The above refund policy applies to this situation as well, so NO REFUND WILL BE PROVIDED. When you and your partner are arguing is exactly when you need to attend the retreat to get the support you need to move forward. Nothing new "in" means nothing new "out", so take a stand for your relationship. Be sure to show up in order to get the new tools that will help you move through what's going on and reduce the frequency of it happening in the future.

Also, if you choose to attend the retreat online, and since we can’t control technology, no refunds will be given if technical failures on your end or ours result in interrupted or lost Internet connections. That’s why we highly recommend:

- Joining the webinar using a desktop or laptop computer.
- Connecting your computer to you modem using an ethernet cable rather than wifi.
- Closing all other tabs on your computers.
- Shutting off other devices (cell phones, tablets, etc.) that use bandwidth.

We also can’t control how you participate, so we don’t offer refunds if for any reason you are unable to complete the retreat or if your participation is interrupted. We highly recommend doing your best to eliminate distractions and set aside the time to focus on the event. We know this can be difficult at times, which is why we make slides of the presentation available after the workshop so you can catch up on anything you missed.

Finally, since this is an “information product” that can’t be returned after using it, no refunds will be given following the program.

CANCELLING, RESCHEDULING OR POSTPONING A WORKSHOP BY ORGANIZERS

Organizers make every and all efforts to ensure events are carried out as scheduled. Organizers, however, reserve the right to cancel, reschedule or postpone an event when very rare circumstances outside of their control create that necessity. Such circumstances include but are not limited to:

- natural disasters (including but not limited to floods, earthquakes, fires, tornadoes, severe weather, or other natural threats to the safety of organizers and participants);
- threats to public health and safety as announced by government and other public security officials;
- actions governments take in response to those health / security threats including, but not limited to, restrictions on business operations, lockdowns, social distancing requirements, vaccination mandates, and other such actions;
- cancellation of an event reservation by the retreat's venue (for in-person events);
- Serious personal health conditions that result in the hospitalization of, or otherwise incapacitate the facilitator(s).

In such rare instances, organizers will attempt to provide as much advanced notice of the change in the event's schedule as possible. Registrations already received at the time of cancellation, rescheduling or postponement can be moved to another date that is within 2 months of when the original registration fee was paid. No refunds will be processed. For in-person events, organizers will not be responsible for reimbursing airfare, accommodations, child care costs or other travel related expenses that participants may incur as a result of, or have already incurred prior to the cancellation, rescheduling or postponement of an event. For this reason, we suggest that participants who must travel to attend a retreat purchase travel cancellation insurance from their service provider.